The reverse of this is generally frowned upon by players: Build up emotions and feelings of bonding and let the girl see how committed you already are, and then hope she follows through with the loving decision to give you sex.
So yeah… I get it. Some men love the feeling of being in love. And that’s valid. But what psychology teaches us is that as Rachel discovered, women want what they want and all the poetic language in the world can’t change that. Men who love passion will still have a better shot at finding a girl to be passionate about if they learn to trip the switches of attraction in as many women as possible. They don’t have to pump and dump every girl whose eyes dilate. It’s just simple math. Love passion? You’ll love it more if you have fifty girls who’d love you to be passionate about them than if you’re pining away in the corner while the PUA’s plow through the Pump ‘n Go parking lot. And more importantly — maybe most importantly — once they have the girl they can feel passionate about, they can continue to game her so that she continues to feel attraction. Continuing to game your girl (using only Jedi powers, not Sith powers) is a way of behaving lovingly to her in a committed relationship.
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Susan Walsh Reply:
July 14th, 2010 at 8:09 pm
Women want what they want and all the poetic language in the world can’t change that. Men who love passion will still have a better shot at finding a girl to be passionate about if they learn to trip the switches of attraction in as many women as possible.
This is truth and there is no way around it. Even if women went for the lover every time, as Rachel did, they would lose interest if he couldn’t keep those switches turned on. That means that once you use Game to snag the girl, you’re going to need to keep it up forever. How challenging this is will depend on how far outside a man’s true nature he needed to travel to flip those switches. If it wasn’t far, he can probably internalize that change. If it’s a huge act, it’s going to fall apart at some point.
As for the conflict between men and women re the timing of loving behavior vs. sex – well, that is the mating dance. It will ever be thus!
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